Leah,    I had a guy ask me if I wanted to see a picture of his wife.   When he showed me the picture, she was lying on the bed spread eagle to the camera completely naked, showing all that God gave her.   I just kinda gulped and said she was pretty and turned away as quickly as possible.  I had never seen a man treat his wife with so much disrespect. 

Your story reminded me of that incident.    Course, I never got close to this guy again and made sure he knew I didn't want to be friends.   What was I supposed to do if I ever met his wife face to face?   What would be appropriate to say?   This guy was sick.   So is your lady.