I've been flirting with someone and wasn't sure he realized it.  I wasn't getting the "I know what you're doing and really wish you'd stop" vibe, so I essentially said, "By the way, I'm flirting with you."  Turns out that he was aware of my flirting, didn't seem to be offended by my comment, so I'm still doing it.  So, it makes me wonder just how much interest a woman can show without seeming too brazen.  Can we really just say what we think or do we have to play the games?

 

 

Up to 5% interest exposure is considered normal. Over that is no longer flirting. If you want to play don't say what you think. If you disclosed your intentions to the other party flirting is re-classified as obsession and shall be treated as such.

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_Sergey_:

Up to 5% interest exposure is considered normal. Over that is no longer flirting. If you want to play don't say what you think. If you disclosed your intentions to the other party flirting is re-classified as obsession and shall be treated as such.

lol...oops. 

Leah:

I've been flirting with someone and wasn't sure he realized it.  I wasn't getting the "I know what you're doing and really wish you'd stop" vibe, so I essentially said, "By the way, I'm flirting with you."  Turns out that he was aware of my flirting, didn't seem to be offended by my comment, so I'm still doing it.  So, it makes me wonder just how much interest a woman can show without seeming too brazen.  Can we really just say what we think or do we have to play the games?

Is he Russian? If so, you have to start with a play, otherwise he'll think you are an aggressor.

Muidugi:

Leah:

I've been flirting with someone and wasn't sure he realized it.  I wasn't getting the "I know what you're doing and really wish you'd stop" vibe, so I essentially said, "By the way, I'm flirting with you."  Turns out that he was aware of my flirting, didn't seem to be offended by my comment, so I'm still doing it.  So, it makes me wonder just how much interest a woman can show without seeming too brazen.  Can we really just say what we think or do we have to play the games?

Is he Russian? If so, you have to start with a play, otherwise he'll think you are an aggressor.

Based on what I described here, do you think I was too aggressive?  Would you have been put off by it?

Leah:

Muidugi:

Leah:

I've been flirting with someone and wasn't sure he realized it.  I wasn't getting the "I know what you're doing and really wish you'd stop" vibe, so I essentially said, "By the way, I'm flirting with you."  Turns out that he was aware of my flirting, didn't seem to be offended by my comment, so I'm still doing it.  So, it makes me wonder just how much interest a woman can show without seeming too brazen.  Can we really just say what we think or do we have to play the games?

Is he Russian? If so, you have to start with a play, otherwise he'll think you are an aggressor.

Based on what I described here, do you think I was too aggressive?  Would you have been put off by it?

Based on what you described he was enjoying the game. I think men enjoy flirting too. Didn't we discuss it recently?

Muidugi:

Leah:

Muidugi:

Leah:

I've been flirting with someone and wasn't sure he realized it.  I wasn't getting the "I know what you're doing and really wish you'd stop" vibe, so I essentially said, "By the way, I'm flirting with you."  Turns out that he was aware of my flirting, didn't seem to be offended by my comment, so I'm still doing it.  So, it makes me wonder just how much interest a woman can show without seeming too brazen.  Can we really just say what we think or do we have to play the games?

Is he Russian? If so, you have to start with a play, otherwise he'll think you are an aggressor.

Based on what I described here, do you think I was too aggressive?  Would you have been put off by it?

Based on what you described he was enjoying the game. I think men enjoy flirting too. Didn't we discuss it recently?

I don't recall.  Did we?  What topic was that? 

http://www.russianatlanta.net/forums/thread/185230.aspx

Muidugi:

http://www.russianatlanta.net/forums/thread/185230.aspx

Ah yes.  I don't think it answered the question I've posed here.

 

What do you think I should do next?  Should I keep flirting with him?   

Leah:

Muidugi:

http://www.russianatlanta.net/forums/thread/185230.aspx

Ah yes.  I don't think it answered the question I've posed here.

 

What do you think I should do next?  Should I keep flirting with him?   

It depends on your goal, I guess. Are you flirting for a sake of flirting or do you have something else in mind. If you are both enjoying it, why stop? If it's not getting you closer to your target, maybe you need to change your tactics.

Leah,  in the past, when a woman was flirting with me but I wasn't entirely sure she was flirting with me, I didn't respond to her flirting in fear that she actually WASN;T flirting with me and I would be too forward to mention it or just plain old get rejected, which was my worst fear.   For those of you who could follow this sentence, you get an A in english.

Now,   hell yes...   I wish a woman would just plainly say what is on her mind so I could quit guessing all the time.   Things would go a lot smoother.   IMHO

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Muidugi:

Leah:

Muidugi:

http://www.russianatlanta.net/forums/thread/185230.aspx

Ah yes.  I don't think it answered the question I've posed here.

 

What do you think I should do next?  Should I keep flirting with him?   

It depends on your goal, I guess. Are you flirting for a sake of flirting or do you have something else in mind. If you are both enjoying it, why stop? If it's not getting you closer to your target, maybe you need to change your tactics.

I don't know if it is getting me closer to my target or not.  I think both parties are enjoying it.  I am.

Since I haven't totally decided on a goal, perhaps you can advice me on a couple of options.

If, hypothetically, my goal is a fling, do I need to change my tactic?  If so, what should the new tactic be?

If, hypothetically, my goal is to actually get to know the person, do I need to change my tactic?  If so, what should the new tactic be? 

mkgilstrap:

Leah,  in the past, when a woman was flirting with me but I wasn't entirely sure she was flirting with me, I didn't respond to her flirting in fear that she actually WASN;T flirting with me and I would be too forward to mention it or just plain old get rejected, which was my worst fear.   For those of you who could follow this sentence, you get an A in english.

Now,   hell yes...   I wish a woman would just plainly say what is on her mind so I could quit guessing all the time.   Things would go a lot smoother.   IMHO

It's not that I don't wish that a woman revealed her thoughts, but in the very beginning her doing so kills something instantly. Something wonderful disappears and leaves a feeling of disappointment. I don't think I had that feeling 10 years ago.

Leah:

Muidugi:

Leah:

Muidugi:

http://www.russianatlanta.net/forums/thread/185230.aspx

Ah yes.  I don't think it answered the question I've posed here.

 

What do you think I should do next?  Should I keep flirting with him?   

It depends on your goal, I guess. Are you flirting for a sake of flirting or do you have something else in mind. If you are both enjoying it, why stop? If it's not getting you closer to your target, maybe you need to change your tactics.

I don't know if it is getting me closer to my target or not.  I think both parties are enjoying it.  I am.

Since I haven't totally decided on a goal, perhaps you can advice me on a couple of options.

If, hypothetically, my goal is a fling, do I need to change my tactic?  If so, what should the new tactic be?

If, hypothetically, my goal is to actually get to know the person, do I need to change my tactic?  If so, what should the new tactic be? 

I thought Green was from Ukraine?

Muidugi:

mkgilstrap:

Leah,  in the past, when a woman was flirting with me but I wasn't entirely sure she was flirting with me, I didn't respond to her flirting in fear that she actually WASN;T flirting with me and I would be too forward to mention it or just plain old get rejected, which was my worst fear.   For those of you who could follow this sentence, you get an A in english.

Now,   hell yes...   I wish a woman would just plainly say what is on her mind so I could quit guessing all the time.   Things would go a lot smoother.   IMHO

It's not that I don't wish that a woman revealed her thoughts, but in the very beginning her doing so kills something instantly. Something wonderful disappears and leaves a feeling of disappointment. I don't think I had that feeling 10 years ago.

Hmmm...  I guess that means I have made a mistake by being direct.